I don't know why but my husband is a yeller. Lately I've noticed that he yells a lot more in the past few years. Whenever my boys do something that is well, bad, he yells. Most of the time, he yells. But the fuse is short and sometimes I cringe when it starts. Now don't get me wrong, he's not a mean person. He's as sweet as pie, sometimes even a pushover. But I noticed that when the boys need a scolding he's quicker to scream and yell, rather than reason. That annoys me. Of course I yell, I scream, I holler at times, but I try to remain calm and reason with my boys. Though trying to compromise with a 2 year old doesn't always work.
Getting back to hubby, his yelling now has gone outside our family circle. I now noticed he's started to raise his voice at my son's friends. When I first heard it I dismissed it as "Oh well, he's not familiar with playground politics." But now it's happened more than a few times and I'm almost well embarrassed when it happens. I mean, the boy is not mine. He does deserve a scolding but from someone else? My husband? My friend, the boy's mom, though has her hands full most of the time so I know she doesn't always see or hear what her child does. Thus one can't say she's letting the bad behavior go. She just doesn't have those most wished upon feature all moms want ... eyes behind our head. At times I scold the boy if need be. I don't raise my voice but I do bring attention to the bad behavior in hopes my friend will see. A great majority of the times she does. But my husband ... sigh, he yells, not all the time, sometimes. I hate it. I feel weird. He's not our child so we don't "deserve" to yell. It's not our "right". I haven't told him how I feel. I'm not sure how he'll react, telling him he's doing something wrong. But sometimes I'm wondering if maybe telling him to stop makes me the one that is wrong.